Naturally, I am not one to speak on
matters like this because even though I am called to the family life industry,
I try to mind my business. But events of the past 2 years have proven that I
can no longer be quiet about this matter because we can’t fold our arms and
watch the marital institution become a mockery.
A
friend buzzed me to share a burden on the need for us to pray for our men of
God because the devil is attacking their marriages.
I was a bit taken aback because while I agree that every bad
thing that happens is made possible by the devil, he can’t also operate without
human connection. How can the devil slap you without entering someone whose
hand is available to do the slapping?
That brings me to the
issue of divorce. Our soft-sell magazines are awash with stories of pastors in
their 3rd and 4th marriages and all sorts happening. And someone called me to
ask why we are experiencing this. I will attempt to answer his question because
many reasons could be attributed to it:
1. A man of God is not God, he is a man:
Unfortunately, we treat our men of God as if they are spirits who don’t live in
a human body. What do we expect when we saddle them with our numerous issues.
Unfortunately, many are not wise enough to say No to church members whose lives
will continue if they drop dead. Church members have academic problems, they go
to a pastor; they have financial problems, they go to the pastor; they have
marital problems, they go to a pastor as if the man is built to solve every problem
and in our quest to prove that we are superstars, we also fail to embrace the
use of professionals who are trained in these areas because of our hidden fear
of losing respect.
